為什麼和自己結婚? Why marry myself is important to me?

婚禮的概念已經超越原來的想法

在公佈我要和自己的30歲結婚後，得到許多不同的回應，讓我重新思考和自己結婚的概念與意義。僅管，在最初的概念，只是一個生日會或歡送會的變相名稱，然而，在討論的過程，了解婚禮的細節的過程中，婚禮的概念已經超越原來的想法。

The concept of the wedding is now more than the initial idea.

After announced I am going to marry myself, my 30 years old, I received many different responses. It makes me to re-think about the meaning and concept for marrying myself. Although at the very beginning, it is just a name of my birthday party and farewell party, the concept of the wedding is now more than the initial idea.



 為什麼結婚?

 為 什麼結婚?有人交往3個月或半年就結婚，有人交往三年、五年或更久才結婚。與生命中所遇見的誰相比，自己和自己的相處時間是最長的，也會一直相處下去，為 什麼不能和自己結婚? 這些年，大家總是常常提起 “要多愛自己一些”、 “要先學會愛自己，才能愛別人”。 我以為這場婚禮對我而言，是一場重要的儀式，宣誓我將永遠愛我自己的方式。這不是必須的，但這是我想要的，僅管對很多人而言，這樣很怪。

 Why marry?

Why marry? Some people get marry after they get together for 3 month and some get marry after they are together for 3 years or 5 years or even longer.  Comparing anyone who we meet in our life, indeed we spend the longest time with ourselves in our life. So why not marry myself. These years, people always mention “ you should love yourself more” or  “we must learn to love ourselves before love others”. To me, this wedding is as a ceremony, a way to swear I will love myself forever. It is not necessary to do but this what I want although many people think it is very weird.

 愛自己並不容易

其實愛自己並不容易，因為很多時候，我們都在用不同的方式傷害自己，包含所謂”自私”也是傷害自己的一種方式。

Not easy to love self

Indeed, it is not easy to love self as many times we are hurt ourselves in many ways and it is including so called “selfish” as a way.